I often wonder why there are so many women with relatively good lives who just don't seem to care. Maybe they feel so helpless they've given up and chosen apathy. Every day there are hundreds of thousands of acts of violence and humiliation. I have to meditate every day to stay calm I'm so angry about how women are treated. But at least I don't turn away from our reality. I acknowledge it and actively support women and groups who are dedicated to making change and I personally contribute as best as I can. I hope in the long run that counts for something. It's better than pretending everything's fine as long things aren't happening to me I think.
Men have been this way throughout recorded history.
Why? Because men are inherently assholes? rapists? monsters?
As the mother of a young man, I can tell you that that's a shameless lie--a lie propagated by the men monsters hiding from accountability for their own behavior. "We can't help it," they glibly lie. "It's just the way we are."
BULLSHIT.
Men have been this way throughout recorded history because THEY ARE ALLOWED TO.
Male privilege. Male entitlement. An entrenched global system of violent patriarchy. THAT'S why men act this way.
It's the exact same reason women don't.
And it's why feminism was invented: because we know that men aren't inherently monsters, any more than women are. In a world without violent patriarchy--without male privilege or male entitlement--men wouldn't do these things any more than women do.
According to the New York Post, Elkin and the wife he shot were going through a bitter divorce. I can see why she wanted out of the marriage. https://nypost.com/2026/04/20/us-news/louisiana-killer-dad-shamar-elkins-possible-motive-revealed/
I often wonder why there are so many women with relatively good lives who just don't seem to care. Maybe they feel so helpless they've given up and chosen apathy. Every day there are hundreds of thousands of acts of violence and humiliation. I have to meditate every day to stay calm I'm so angry about how women are treated. But at least I don't turn away from our reality. I acknowledge it and actively support women and groups who are dedicated to making change and I personally contribute as best as I can. I hope in the long run that counts for something. It's better than pretending everything's fine as long things aren't happening to me I think.
I wonder if helplessness is the issue as well.
Decades ago, I took a Model Mugging course with a younger roommate.
She asked me, "How can women live our lives, knowing what we know about how men treat us?"
I said, "Get used to being angry."
Men have been this way throughout recorded history.
Why? Because men are inherently assholes? rapists? monsters?
As the mother of a young man, I can tell you that that's a shameless lie--a lie propagated by the men monsters hiding from accountability for their own behavior. "We can't help it," they glibly lie. "It's just the way we are."
BULLSHIT.
Men have been this way throughout recorded history because THEY ARE ALLOWED TO.
Male privilege. Male entitlement. An entrenched global system of violent patriarchy. THAT'S why men act this way.
It's the exact same reason women don't.
And it's why feminism was invented: because we know that men aren't inherently monsters, any more than women are. In a world without violent patriarchy--without male privilege or male entitlement--men wouldn't do these things any more than women do.
BECAUSE THEY WOULDN'T BE ALLOWED TO.